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I’m the type of person who could be happy most places, and we’re similar enough that I don’t think he’d be interested in any of the things that would truly make me miserable. He’d really like to move but since I already moved to this city when I didn’t have a job lined up, for no reason other than being with him, he doesn’t want to make me do that since I did find a job that I love – so we’re making it work here for now.
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July 1, 2010 at 10:59 am
Would I be willing to make sacrifices for a woman I was in love with? Yes.
However, it is a bad idea to depend on one other person to provide all of your happiness for you.
They can’t do it.
Seems like your friend is setting herself up for a problem when her crack high of finding “The One” wears off and she finds herself living in a place where she has nothing else.
July 1, 2010 at 12:35 pm
I moved to Texas once to be with my sweetheart (she still had a kid in high school.) Fortunately, it was Austin – if it had been Waco or Midland, I doubt that I would have made the move. I did think that she was “the One” at the time… but things change. At least she was willing to move to Northern California with me when both of our job situations changed and her son was out of high school. So, life is a never-ending balancing of competing interests – one just has to fully evaluate all of the factors (and realize that nothing is permanent), and make the best of the choices that one makes.
July 1, 2010 at 5:27 pm
If you give up something for love, is that sacrifice or compromise? http://katwilder.com/?p=1901
July 4, 2010 at 1:39 am
People don’t know from sacrifice, or don’t recognize it when they see it. But it’s all around us, and w/o it? The world falls apart. Quickly too.
We sacrifice for our kids, sometimes daily if not hourly. We sacrifice for loved ones with care & patience they might not wholly ‘deserve’, acknowledge, or even recognize. Men regularly sacrifice their lives for our country & our ideals & women do too, but still much less commonly, at least in the Military & with regards to the ‘ultimate sacrifice’.
Both men & women ‘sacrifice’ in marriage & relationships, but differently & perhaps at different times too. Mary will support Tom in his medical studies, providing the much needed income to see him through. He supports her in her business ventures which occur after the kids are small. Or her going back to school for that 2nd degree. Kyle moves to a new state for a job, and gf Sally moves there with him, knowing that they’ll be together. Lori moves with husband Bob to the next posting for his military/sales career. Sam moves with Beth for her next faculty position, his poetry can be written ‘almost anywhere’.
There are perhaps Thousands of ‘compromises’ & sacrifices in a lifetime. Some memorable, some not. Some more consequential than others. You might always ask yourself, did I make the right choice? And only time may tell. And even then? You might not ever know.
My spouse moved to a new state, about 1000Km distant from her home state. To live in a town I’d never been & in a new home I’d never lived in. She made her home there for about a year until I was able to move from a 2nd nearby state once I finished my schooling. But we’ve been here, in Metro Atlanta for more than 20 years. And yes, it has been compared to the pits of fiery Hell. And yes, it’s got a political culture that’s almost as dysfunctional as Cali’s, and certainly crueler in many parts. But nevertheless we’ve thrived here amongst the debris & Rednecks. But this is hardly a recommendation. There are ‘better’ places. They’ve got a name for that place, it’s Canada. We might still retire there if we can!
But men & women sacrifice both to maintain relationships & marriages. So often it seems as if the women are doing this earlier perhaps & the men mostly later. But it does happen, fairly ‘equally’ too on a longer term basis, Believe it or not!